January 30th, 2010

Before reading this, you need to know that this is an email I sent to a friend. He, at the time, had very little confidence and wasn’t a whole lot of fun to hang around. Since, that has changed. He isn’t outta the water yet, but things are looking up. Anyway, I thought it could apply to all of us. I took out the things that were personalized, but left the rest just as it was. I hope any one of you can take this to heart.

Don’t assume you are only a burden in the world. As Phil. 2 says, we are all here to shine like stars, showing the love God has for all. So… DO IT! You have so much to offer, but your lack of confidence and personal attacks set you back quite a bit. You have to look for the good in all people, including yourself… I know that no one, including myself, looks at situations this way all the time. But you have to try. You can be a star— but you have to be willing, first. “Whether you think you can, or cannot, you are right.” I’m sure you saw me post that quote the other day. You need to tell yourself you are capable of anything. I am a firm believer in living life with a positive attitude. There have been studies that negativity is bad for your health, and the way you’re going, you’re going to be dead soon. That’s harsh, I know, but it’s very true. You are killing your spirit every time you put yourself down. Sure, there will be people who put you down, that’s the way life is. You have to be the one to tell yourself that you *are* worth everything in the world. “Live like the person you want to be.” Another quote I live by. I love quotes. But really, please, look at *every* situation as “how can I benefit from this?” —-EVERY situation has good to it. Even if it’s a bad situation. Sometimes I get upset cuz I’m running late… Then I stop and think “maybe God was preventing a car accident.”

That alone is one of the biggest reasons I don’t talk to you a whole lot, you are always so negative. I do consider you a friend, one of my best, because I know you will be there for me. But I can’t be the one to tell you that you’re okay, you’re worth it, whatever the case might be. That’s something you need to do. With you being negative, it makes you not a whole lot of fun to talk to. “If you don’t like something in your life, do what can be done to change it.”—-The negativity takes a toll on my mood, my day, my life. If you want to bring positive things, even in bad times, that’s fine. If someone dies, I’m not saying you need to be positive about that-although the Bible says we should, a funeral is a celebration of life, and what we should be upset about?…That person gets eternity before we do. I can’t even imagine what it’s gonna be like, but it’ll be pretty amazing. Please try to be positive. I do miss my friend, but I want the one that loves his life. You should. God created a beautiful place for us to live, and we get another day! Stop and look around you, this world is amazing.

Another quote: “You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you.” Everyone wants someone that values themselves. I value my life, every minute of it, I find myself thinking “wow, life is amazing.”…. It makes people wonder what is in my head that keeps me going, even when things aren’t so great. I smile 95% of the time I am awake, even if I don’t feel like it. There’s no sense in ruining someone else’s day with a frown, when it might make someone’s—anyone’s— day even a little bit brighter. How far is negativity going to get me? Value yourself. Make people fall in love with you. There’s a difference between confidence and ego. Confidence is from the inside, out. Ego stays inside. Shine to the world. Make the world wonder about you, why you’re so happy. Just be happy to be living.

Get some sleep. Don’t worry about the next day. “Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life?” (Luke 12:25) Relax, God knows what He’s doing. When you are well rested, you feel better. Drink more water. That helps with the way you feel as well.


-Originally posted: 06-21-09

One Response to “Confidence”

  1. Political Munkies at Inside the Mind of a Munkie… on October 25, 2010 7:25 pm

    […] related blogs that I have written: Confidence and Please Don’t Tell Anyone. You might find them […]

Trackback URI | Comments RSS

Leave a Reply

Name (required)

Email (required)


Speak your mind (put your twitter username if you want us to reply)