Socks and Seeds

February 16th, 2011

For those of you who don’t know, I have a five year old son. I call him “Munkie” — No, really… I do. I get funny looks. Like the other day at the grocery store… SQUIRREL!

Yesterday morning I got Mini-Munkie up, and helped him pick out his clothes so he could get dressed. I threw his jeans, underwear and socks on the floor.

I grabbed his socks, getting ready to pull them apart… He lowered his eyebrows and said, “Mom, I can DO IT!” He pulled the socks away from me, sat on the floor and in seconds, put his socks on. In that very short moment, I had a flashback of the many days I spent teaching him how to put his socks on.

I will not cry, I will not cry. — Yes, seriously, I am tearing up while writing this.

I spent day after day hoping to see him just slide his socks on. He would get 3, maybe 4 toes in, and pull… Slide it off, try again, and the same would happen. After a few pulls, he would look up and me with almost a sad face and say, “I can’t do it.” I always told him, “Yes, you can. You just need to practice. Try again.”

I am not exaggerating when I say that some days, we spent 10 minutes getting his socks on. I would say, “Oops, you forgot a toe!” … “You almost got it — try again!” … “It’s a little twisted, pull on this side.” Most days I wanted so badly to just take the socks from him and put them on his feet. But I didn’t. I learned patience in this sock – practice. It’s so hard to watch my child struggle.

But had I done it for him, he wouldn’t have learned to do it himself. We all need to practice something to be good at it… And now, Mini-Munkie can put his socks on! Yesterday wasn’t his first success, he has been able to do this for a couple years. But it was just yesterday that it truly hit me… My little boy is not so little anymore.

It’s a bittersweet feeling. Watching one’s child grow up is both sad and rewarding. On one hand, I feel less needed, which is sad… But I did the right thing, and now he can do it on his own!

I was just talking with my friend, Candace, about planting the seed of faith in someone. I thought about my flashback with Mini-Munkie and the socks, because I gave him the basic instructions, coached and encouraged him while he struggled to learn, and finally he was able to “fly” on his own.

It’s much the same with planting faith seeds. All we can do is plant that seed. After that, it is up to the Holy Spirit to do the work. Once we plant the seed, tell them what we know and how incredible life with God in it can be, we are not personally responsible for where it goes from there.

I struggle with letting go. Sometimes I want to “carry” a person and make sure their faith grows… We all have to remember that once the seed is planted, we are done. Of course, we should be there to answer any questions they have and be there for support if we are needed, but we need to know the line between our job and the Holy Spirit’s.

Candace said to me, “While we’re zoning in on one person trying to be the Gardener, there is another row waiting to be seeded…”

I’m not sure if she came up with that or if she’s read it somewhere, but I think it fits well. We are only the planters, not the Gardener.

Have an excellent day!


4 Responses to “Socks and Seeds”

  1. John Franco on February 16, 2011 11:40 am

    Smiles all around from me reading this. Keep up the good work. I do read every post even though I may not like most of them. But this one hands down made me smile 🙂

  2. Clay Morgan on February 16, 2011 12:48 pm

    Nice thoughts. It’s always hard to see someone heading for struggle. The line between helping and letting them figure it out is always hard. At the same time, someone else is watching us and thinking the same thing about where we’re heading.

  3. Daddy Munkie on February 16, 2011 3:58 pm

    Hey Munkie! God’s Word put it best long ago through St. Paul: I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God made it grow. So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow.
    (1Cor. 3:6-7)

    Have a good day my Munkie!

  4. Kim Smith on February 23, 2011 11:11 am

    I love this. It is something I struggle with big time. Have you ever found that while attempting to be the gardener yourself you have failed. (as we all would) Recently this happened to me and the people I was helping looked at me after I made a mistake (sinned) and said “This is your fault, you should have stopped him, YOURE the Christian.” It took me a long while (read almost a decade) to learn my lesson I am a Christ follower I am NOT Christ. I fall short everyday which is why I can only plant the seeds, I am not the gardener! Great post!

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