Fear of Rejection

June 11th, 2011

Vacation Bible School just ended at church. About 100 kids attended, and they were all excited to show up each day to learn about this guy named Jesus. The focus of the curriculum was sharing the Good News. That is, telling people outside the church, about Jesus. Will they go out and tell people in their daily lives about Jesus and what He did for us? Maybe. The younger ones are more likely to do so. The older kids? Probably as excited as they are about what Jesus has done for us, the chances of the name of Jesus being used outside the church walls are much smaller. Why?

Let’s think about ourselves. Most of the readers I have, are, to my knowledge, adults. How much do you talk about God outside the security of the church walls? Why did I use the words, “security of the church walls?” The answer is simple: Rejection. I have heard so many say that they are afraid to bring up Christianity in conversation, because they are afraid of being rejected by their friends and peers. Thought of as an outcast. The mocking.

Well, I will tell you this: You will be rejected. You will be mocked. Jesus said, in Matthew 24:9-10 — “Then you will be handed over to be persecuted and put to death, and you will be hated by all nations because of me. 10 At that time many will turn away from the faith and will betray and hate each other,” You will be persecuted. According to merriam-webster.com, the definition of persecuted is this:

1: to harass or punish in a manner designed to injure, grieve, or afflict; specifically : to cause to suffer because of belief

2: to annoy with persistent or urgent approaches (as attacks, pleas, or importunities) : pester

You will be harassed and attacked for being a Christian. But don’t let that pull you away from your faith. There are so many people around you who were once Christians, but have fallen away. There are also people out there that have never known the love of Jesus. There are people all around you that are looking for fulfillment. Many in all the wrong ways. Do not be afraid to share it with them. They will not come to you. Go to them.

I have spoken of the seeds of faith in a previous post, Socks and Seeds – In it, I spoke about planting the seeds of faith. Remember that we, as Christians, are sowers of seeds. We are not the Gardener. All we can do is try. We can, and will be, rejected. I have been, so many times. Anyone who openly shares their faith, has been rejected. But we tried, and that’s all we can, and are expected, to do. An excerpt from “Socks and Seeds:”

All we can do is plant that seed. After that, it is up to the Holy Spirit to do the work. Once we plant the seed, tell them what we know and how incredible life with God in it can be, we are not personally responsible for where it goes from there.I struggle with letting go. Sometimes I want to “carry” a person and make sure their faith grows… We all have to remember that once the seed is planted, we are done. Of course, we should be there to answer any questions they have and be there for support if we are needed, but we need to know the line between our job and the job of the Holy Spirit.

Let me tell you a story.

When I was seventeen, I spent a lot of time online. I mean, a lotttt of time online. Many of you know how social I am, so it shouldn’t surprise you that this new way of communication and platform to meet new people all over the world absolutely fascinated me. This was back when the dangers of the internet were a running media story, and meeting people online was virtually taboo. Everyone on the internet was considered a creeper by most in society. I realize that there are bad people on the internet, that predators actually do exist. I’m not discounting the safety measures that need to be taken, but like I’ve said in a past post, behind every screen name is a face, with a name. Back to my story.

When I was seventeen, I landed in a chatroom. I loved that I could talk to many, many people all at once. I befriended one boy, somehow. I don’t really remember how we became friends. He was from Washington state, and was just a few months younger than me. We exchanged AIM screen names, but barely ever talked after that. Then one night, I got home  from hanging out with some friends, and he was pretty much the only person online. I messaged him, asked how he had been. I don’t remember how religion came up, probably one of my questions. I like getting to know people in general, because I find every person interesting.

He said he wasn’t a Christian anymore. This disappointed me, as it always does, because living with God in my life is incredible. But the word “anymore” always gives me a glimmer of hope. This story is my reason for that. I asked why. I won’t share the details of what happened in his life, but we quickly moved from that conversation, back to my faith, why I believed what I did. We debated for hours. I was supposed to be off the internet by 12:30 a.m. each night, but I justified this all-night debate with, “Witnessing is more important, if I get in trouble, planting a seed is worth it.”

I watched the sun come up that next morning. By that time, his thoughts had changed dramatically. Not by my doing. I did not changed his heart. It was the Gardener. I merely did my job, and planted the seed. Make sure, when you’re witnessing, do not look at it and say, “Look what I have done.” Instead, say, “Look what God has done through me.” You never know what God may be doing through you.

What I have to say about your fear of being rejected:

Do not put worth in your earthly reputation. In the end, it will not matter. Everyone will be standing, side by side, all stripped of any earthly worth. The reputation that really matters is that of which you obtain with God. Therefore, be rejected 1,000 times if you have to — you may not know about the seeds you plant. A plant takes a long time to grow. Even those who reject us may have a seed planted that we don’t know is actually growing.

And with that — what a wonderful message to share! That there is hope. With God, all things are possible. With faith in Jesus, there is eternal life. What an incredible gift! I talk more about that in my 2010 Easter post, Amazing Love. One of my favorite posts, I suggest you check it out. Additionally – yes, you will be rejected, but while you are, there’s another row of seeds that is needing to be planted. Keep it up, and God will do the rest.

Take care of yourselves.


2 Responses to “Fear of Rejection”

  1. tammy on June 15, 2011 7:40 pm

    Hi, love your blog! What happened to your twitter?


  2. Tessa on June 17, 2011 6:32 pm

    Thanks, hope its its okeuy i shared this on FB again thanks and God bless you!!!

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