It’s All I’ve Ever Known

August 1st, 2011

Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a creature amazed by the mind of a human. Though I am in possession of  a brain myself, I find it incredibly intriguing that each and every one is able to think for itself, make decisions on its own, and essentially manage an entire body, day in and day out, for years on end. No wonder our bodies aren’t immortal… They are working at all times, for years. I’m sorry, but if I were a body (and not just a soul inside one,) I would need a nap.

That’s probably why we require so much sleep. Though our brains never stop working, they at least rest a bit. Well, all but my imagination. I wish I could explain in full detail what my brain comes up with in my dreams… In most of them, I am either flying on my own, swimming at full speed like a fish, rounding corners like crazy… Or on a bungee cord, zooming down a huge roller coaster type thing that is actually a highway … SQUIRREL! … My point is that we all have a mind, and we have the ability to function on our own.

Excuse. Reason. Two words, two definitions, too often confused.

What is a reason? In my own dictionary: a legitimate argument, for doing (or not doing) something.

What is an excuse? In my own dictionary: an argument for doing (or not doing) something when one doesn’t want to reveal the truth.

Why do humans automatically look to point fingers at others when their faults are shown? The answer is easy, but hard to swallow. It is simply this: it hurts. No one likes to be told that what they do is wrong, even if they are fully aware of the lengths of how wrong their actions are. So they naturally look to a scape goat. (Why and when did goats become the guilty ones?) They point fingers and say, “This isn’t my fault.”

The particular excuse I have in mind today: It’s all I’ve ever known. People use this in a variety of situations, but the one I see most often is when someone is following in their parents footsteps. Whether it be drugs, excessive drinking or some other kind of addiction, many will say that it’s all they’ve ever known. If you grew up in a household filled with drugs and drunk parents, I am truly sorry for that. No child should have to watch their parents live a life of alcoholism or drug addiction. Sadly, this is so often the case.

There are so many children living this hidden life. I’ve heard friends say that they’ve had to cover for their parents. Some, it was a drug problem, others it was alcohol. Still others, it was a gambling issue. It is most sad to me because parents are supposed to protect their children. There are so many children dealing with this, having to play the part of the parent, while their parents play the child.

I have actually heard someone say, “I know it’s bad… but it’s all I’ve ever known.” People who use this excuse get /eyerolls from me. I’m sorry, but I don’t buy the “it’s all I’ve ever known” line. If you are aware of the effects of a particular lifestyle, it is not all you’ve ever known. You are fully aware of what you are doing to yourself and those around you.

No matter what sort of life your parents have lived, you do not need to follow in their footsteps and/or lifestyle. There is no such thing as “it’s all I’ve ever known.” This is not a reason to live a dangerous life. It doesn’t matter if you come from a family filled with alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling addiction, prostitution – whatever it is, it was ultimately at one time their choice to choose that lifestyle. “But it started at a very low point in their life.” I am aware that this is most often the case. Unfortunately, Satan doesn’t ever play fair, and will do anything to pull you down. He takes advantage of these times, and provides an “easy escape.” This escape often comes with years of pain for all involved.

I know of so many people who live the same life their parents lived, just because they don’t think they deserve any better. You deserve what you put your effort toward. You are born with the capability to achieve anything! As cheesy as that sounds, it’s so true. If you are determined and put forth the effort to learn what you need to achieve your goals, you will reach them.

No matter what kind of living situation you came from, you have a chance to choose for yourself. You can live a successful and happy life, if you choose to work hard to make it that way. Don’t ever take the easy road because you feel it’s your only choice. It may look like an attractive way out, but in the end, any sort of addiction creates pain and sorrow for not just the person doing it, but those who love them as well.

If you work hard and hold your head high, fill your heart with determination and your mind with skill, you can reach the stars.


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